Forced socializing & oversharing - 有臉書帳號的人必學這兩個夯詞 。再來看看Facebook envy在講什麼。

圖片來源：http://randomfunnypicture.com/funny-animated-pictures/facebook-you-vs-real-you-animated/
 臉書之所以讓人望而生畏，與「強迫社交」和「過度分享」不無關係。
社交之所以累人，是因為大家都在費力表現自己並不具備的特質。

為什麼上面這張圖左邊一個無臉裸男要跟右邊這個女人頭的照片放在一起？
教練來解釋一下：
大家都知道左邊的圖是Facebook you，右邊是The real you。
右邊的Facebook you 是個酷男，但是左邊的這個圖，是女性私處的清潔用品
(看到douche這個字了嗎？在品牌名稱Eve下面，
這種女性私處清潔液，英文叫做douche。
A douche bag是婦潔液與承裝液體的瓶子或是容器。
Douchebag這個字(連起來一個字)，中文的意思就是「渣男」，
只要是自以為是、行為囂張與令人感到反胃的男性，都可以這麼稱呼。
但這是罵人的話，所以大家了解意思就好了，平常不要隨便用喔。 

這篇文章是時代雜誌網站TIME上的一篇短文。主題是臉書Facebook的分享，對現代人所造成的影響。

寫作實力要精進，要做到泛讀與精讀兩個要訣。泛讀得靠經常性的閱讀，各種題材皆可。精讀的部分就由我提供文章與解析。短篇的評論或是分析型的文章，是可以下手的對象。
不要嫌棄舊文，因為這些文章確實有可讀性，未來陸續還有新文推出，大家可以蒐集部落格上的每周一文單元，每周念一篇文章，份量剛好也可以強化寫作能力。大家加油！

Facebook Envy

過度分享oversharing這件事情與強迫社交forced socializing是我不願意重啟臉書帳號的兩個主要原因。Oversharing其實已經造成很多社會問題(如駭客入侵，好友失和與詐騙等現象)。現在已經有學者證實，臉書社群雖然正面效應不少，但是也有越來越多的人，因為這個社群工具而感到不開心。根據研究，每三個人當中，就有一個人會在上了臉書之後感覺很糟。原因很簡單。如果你剛失戀，看到別人戀愛，心中當然不是滋味。看到剛分手的情人，竟然愛上了自己的朋友，就會更想加入情人去死團。

研究顯示，男性的臉書使用者，擅長自我推銷，注重About me以及Notes這些欄位的內容。女性則會刻意凸顯自己的魅力與社交能力。

另外也有人憂心自己不受歡迎，上傳的文章或是貼的照片沒什麼人給評語，沒有人按讚，沒有人理會，這些人會因此覺得自己不受重視，一種丟臉失望之感油然而生。唉，我看了這些報導只會覺得，人生已經夠難了，何苦讓臉書再來湊一腳呢？大家看看下面這段文字，是不是會覺得很諷刺呢？


臉書當然不能廢，一旦廢了，很多人可能會因此失去生存的動力。但是減少掛在臉書上面的時間，確實有必要。抽個空看本好書，多陪爸爸媽媽聊聊天，出去騎腳踏車或是運動，少點Facebook envy or frustration其實也不賴。

這篇文章好讀易消化。要是將來有人問你關於臉書的英文話題，至少有些東西可以與人聊聊，不必擔心詞窮或是沒梗可以討論。


實用單字用語搶先看

1. to feel lousy 感覺很糟糕

2. the warm embrace of...在...的溫暖懷抱中

3. to trigger 引發

4. Facebook frequenter 經常上臉書的人

5. to feel pressure to portray oneself in the best light 有壓力要將自己最好的一面表現出來

6.  to be explicitly boastful 很明顯的自誇或是炫耀

7. emotional havoc 情緒混亂崩潰

8. to undergo a painful breakup 正在經歷一段心痛的分手過程

9. to be socially connected 與社群連結

10. to be left out by one's circle of friends 被自己的社交圈/朋友圈所忽略或是孤立

Why Facebook Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself

By Alexandra Sifferlin 

No surprise — those Facebook photos of your friends on vacation or celebrating a birthday party can make you feel lousy感覺很糟糕.

Facebook is supposed to envelop us in the warm embrace of our social network沉浸在社群溫暖的擁抱當中, and scanning掃描 friends’ pages are supposed to make us feel loved, supported and important (at least in the lives of those we like). But skimming through快速瀏覽 photos of friends’ life successes can trigger 引發/誘發feelings of envy, misery, and loneliness as well, according to researchers from two German universities. The scientists studied 600 people who logged time on the social network and discovered that one in three felt worse after visiting the site上臉書的人，三人當中有一人會在瀏覽臉書後感覺心情更糟—especially if they viewed vacation photos. Facebook frequenters臉書的重度使用者(經常造訪網站的人) who spent time on the site without posting their own content was also more likely to feel dissatisfied.

 “We were surprised by how many people have a negative experience from Facebook with envy leaving them feeling lonely, frustrated or angry,” study author Hanna Krasnova from the Institute of Information Systems at Berlin’s Humboldt University told Reuters路透社. ”From our observations some of these people will then leave Facebook or at least reduce their use of the site.”

The most common cause of Facebook frustration臉書挫折 came from users comparing themselves socially to their peers同儕, while the second most common source of dissatisfaction was “lack of attention” from having fewer comments, likes, and general feedback compared to friends.

The study authors note that both men and women feel pressure to portray themselves in the best light有壓力要將自己最好的一面表現出來 to their Facebook friends, but men are more likely to post more self-promotional content自我推銷的內容 in their ”About Me” and “Notes” sections than women, although women are more likely to stress their physical attractiveness and sociability社交能力.

The authors write [PDF]:

Overall, however, shared content does not have to be “explicitly boastful很明顯的吹噓或是炫耀” for envy feelings to emerge. In fact, a lonely user might envy numerous birthday wishes his more sociable peer receives on his FB Wall. Equally, a friend’s change in the relationship status from “single” to “in a relationship” might cause emotional havoc情緒混亂糟糕 for someone undergoing a painful breakup正在面臨痛苦的分手難關.

So far, it seems that the positive effects of being socially connected與社群連結 supersede取代 the negative consequences負面結果 of feeling inferior or left out by your circle of friends覺得自己不如人或是被自己的朋友圈所孤立. But the authors suggest that if the hurtful feelings grow, Facebook and other social media may no longer be a fun way to stay connected with friends, but could become just another source of stress形成另外一種壓力 for people.

The research will be presented at an information system conference in Germany in February, called the 11th International Conference on Wirtschaftsinformatik.